Last week we visited the idea of honing in on your purpose: how your specific gifts and talents are expressed in the world. I do hope you took the time to work through that exercise. It does not matter where you are in life, it is important to know. Once knowing, it informs your day-to-day decisions. Rest in knowing that you may refine that purpose statement over time as you give it more attention. You’ll find what resonates for you if you look for it.
There are many concepts we address here, we want to incorporate them. We see that it would improve the life we are living and we find that we are distracted inside our very own lives. I find that to be true about me.
Recently I changed my circumstances from working for others where I went to an office in the usual 8-5. Now my office is in my home. I have noticed that I am easily distracted from what I set out to accomplish each day. The laundry might call, or piddling in the garden sings out to me, or playing on the Internet sucks time. Yes, I am still learning, too.
Success habits are just that: habits. Staying focused on what we’ve set out for ourselves is a habit that must become ingrained through practice, practice, practice. Learning to choose those activities that move us along in the direction we are going. Learning to lovingly say “No, thank you” to those which pull us away from our goals. We truly can’t be all things to all the people in our lives. Be about choosing wisely every day.
Be about choosing what you think about, too. Stay focused. Give up blaming and complaining. Take 100 percent responsibility for your life.
What can you do to practice staying focused? Try these tips.
1. Each night, take a few minutes to consider what you want to accomplish the next day. Don’t make too long a list. Write down 3-5 tasks that if you did those and those alone that day, you would count it successful.
2. The next day, when your day starts, review that list. Resolve to accomplish those few items.
3. As best you can, do those first in your day. Life often comes rushing at us and we forget what we set out to do. At your midday, check in on your accomplishments of the day, correcting your course as needed.
4. At the end of the day, review your short list that you had set out for yourself. How did you do on it? Accomplish them all? Celebrate!
Didn’t do all of them or any of them? Skip judging yourself, don’t offer up reasons you didn’t. Accept that you didn’t. No need to mentally beat yourself up. That’s blaming and it has no value in the accomplishment of your goals.
5. Repeat the process.
I so enjoyed working with people on Saturday on discovering their passions. I have a desire to give people tools so that they get past saying “I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.” It can be a lighthearted saying, I know, and is cute in five-year olds. Still, and often, people are lost in their very own lives and don’t know what they are about. There is only one shot at this life, let’s be among those who live it on purpose.
On the staying-focused topic, at the hotel where I held that workshop last week, I experienced challenges on the set-up and such. It gave me plenty of opportunity to choose what I was thinking about. It became a perfect lesson for me on the value of being purposeful in thought. I’ll share with you next week.
Let me know how I can support you and your endeavors. I enjoy hearing from you.