The power of knowing

Did you wake up this morning knowing what you want to happen today? You know, a plan? More importantly, do you know what it is that you want in the various parts of your life and have them written down? You know, goals.

Many people think “Eek! Goals! What if I want wrong?! What if I don’t get it! Eek!” Seriously. Don’t do that.

Instead, realize that that powerful, mysterious organ we call a brain is at work—all the time—to move you toward what you want. If you are not sure of what you want in any area of you life, you have the power to decide and begin going in that direction. You might change your goal along the way and that would not be defeat. That would merely be a change in your goal, not a moral failure.

Resisting knowing what you want? How about you write down three goals for the coming week as discussed in my post “Encouraging clarity.”

Do you have a big goal in some area of your life that you have no idea how you would accomplish it? Great! Remind yourself about refocusing on it at “Re, re, re” or read the reason it is important to you to have one in this post titled “The big one.”

We are creatures of habit; we are travelling together to learn and practice habits that support what we want out of the life we are given. The important first step is knowing what we want. Being clear about it and then choosing to pursue it relentlessly over time. Here’s another post about writing down and pursuing your goals.

Yes, it’s a repeated theme around here because, truly, most of us are unwilling to do the work of knowing what we want, writing those goals down, reminding ourselves of them regularly enough to take the next step we know to do. I’m rooting for you.

Good and good for you

I was reading an article this week about practicing pleasure and its physiological impact on the human body. One particularly interesting part is that pleasure and distraction are not the same. “Ah,” said I.

We won’t talk about how stressed we are. We fill our lives too full, we don’t say “no” graciously, we don’t know how to be anything other than stressed or distracted it seems. Then we wonder why we can’t handle it all, we’re aren’t feeling well, we can’t sleep, we get sick. Any of this apply to you?

What do you do that brings you pleasure? Something that isn’t electronics based such as computer anything/TV/movies. Got anything?

I enjoy making things in the kitchen. Fermenting foods, making cheese, piddling around. I also enjoy gardening time of a certain type. Planting a thing or two, walking about to see what is blooming with a cup of coffee in hand, watering with a hose or washing off the front step with it. These things bring me pleasure.

If it is an “ought to” or feels like a chore, not so much. Oh, I might want the outcome enough to do the thing but I wouldn’t classify the getting there as pleasurable.

Maybe you like to walk for pleasure, fish for pleasure, listen to music for pleasure, get a massage for pleasure, sit silently for pleasure. I’d love to hear what you are doing for pleasure.

An easy, no-cost, you-can-do-it-today pleasure is the daydreaming challenge from last week. I posted it on my Facebook page, too. If your daydreaming isn’t an attractive, joyful few minutes of your day, change it. Change it to pleasurable, change it to a place you want to be at–yes, if only in your mind. If you’ll experience the emotion as if it were actually happening, you’ll amplify your good outcomes.

Open to possibilities

“We should always be open to greater opportunity.” My dad told me this years ago. He was a career man and this particular comment had to do with working.

Completing university after his service in World War II (Thank you, GI Bill), he joined a company where he contributed until his retirement. He’d started off a poor Kansas farmboy and ended his career with a big title, much responsibility and much success. I don’t know if he’d seriously looked at other opportunities or had always found that his greater opportunity where he was.

When people decide to leave their current employment, the mind naturally turns to greater opportunity, often with the idea of escaping present conditions. Being open to greater opportunity is best practiced all the time and most especially when you are content with your current work. It’s about mindset. I am not advocating you begin sending out resumes or checking the job boards…though you might. Only you decide how to handle being open to greater opportunity at any phase of your life, because you are daily knowing and acting on the knowledge that you are 100 percent responsibility for your outcomes.

What is it about that saying that goes “You get what you expect”? Or its sister saying “What goes around comes around”? Bogus? Pollyanna? Actually, there are physiological reasons to adopt an attitude of expectation. I wrote about them last fall in this post about visualizing your goals.

I’ve seen remarkable circumstances come about for my coaching clients when they adopt this attitude of being always open to greater opportunity. I hope you’ll do the same. You’ll find out that Dad was right.