Get moving. Now. Today.

It isn’t thinking. It isn’t planning. It is taking action that gets us where we want to go.

“You can’t cross the sea by merely staring into the water.”
Rabindranath Tagore, 1913 Nobel laureate for literature.

Otis and his girlfriend both came home for summer vacation and began looking for employment. Otis picked up the phone, calling around to see who was looking to hire. His girlfriend spent the first week getting her resume just right. Writing and rewriting.

By the end of the second day, Otis had landed a job, while his girlfriend was still deep in resume writing. Otis got into action right away figuring that if someone wanted a resume, he’d deal with it then.

What stories do you know that show that it is taking action that sails us into the sea?

Do you have a to-do list that is never ending? Me, too. That running to-do list is a burden to my psyche because it never ends. Ugh.

I find, though, that if I concentrate more on my success journal, I take more action. I want to be able to write in that journal each night about the actions I took that day. I use my success journal for every area of life, not only business initiatives.

For my business initiatives that are money-making actions, I star those in my success journal. It is easy to get tangled up in the busy-ness of owning a business. Knowing what is the best use of my time as far as profitability and highlighting those actions day to day draws me away from piddling.

I also write down daily what I am moving forward on with my mom’s increasing care needs. She grows more diminished because of her worsening case of dementia. I write down in my success journal what I do and often write “when I didn’t want to” down alongside certain actions. That helps me keep top of mine my passion to treat my mom with all the honor and respect she deserves.

How about a way to keep track of your own actions? My friend Pete Winiarski knows about taking action and has written a book on that very thing. It’s called Act Now! He has made a chapter and all his forms in the book available for free. I am starting to use them today to see if they support my moving forward in a way that works for me.

Whether or not I use his forms long term, I will be taking action and that is where it is at. Here’s the link to check Pete’s free offer and sign up for the freebies. http://tinyurl.com/kqrffsl

Start sailing. Take some action today, even if you do it poorly. You’ll learn from that, too.

It’s a wrap: asking is required

We’ve spent the last four weeks learning the importance of asking for what you want. We do live in community and no one can read your mind. In the past weeks have you been doing more asking? Trying different methods? Asking different people?

If not, why not? Have I left you unconvinced? Has a little grip of fear frozen your asking mechanism? Is it that you don’t know what you want and, therefore, don’t ask?

Once we know to our core that we are each 100 percent responsible for the outcomes in our lives, then pushing past our resistance becomes do-able. Note that I didn’t say “easy.”

It’s 3.5 months until the end of 2013. What’s left on your list for that timeframe? What do you need to ask for this week to move those forward?

When I train groups, give speeches, work with clients one-on-one in private mentoring, “Everything you want is outside your comfort zone” appears somewhere. We all have a comfort zone. We all like being in our comfort zone. It is uncomfortable asking for what we want outside our comfort zone.

Make no mistake, whether inside your comfort zone or expanding your comfort zone through new initiatives, you are 100 percent responsible for your outcomes.

I took a lull in business initiatives of late as my daughter was home while we had an extended weekend celebrating with family and friends my mom’s 90th birthday.
What a milestone!

Now that those sweet memories are tucked away, it’s time to be clear-eyed about the accomplishments I will be celebrating at the end of the year. Yes, I will have much work to accomplish and I will also have many opportunities to ask for what I determine helps me on the way to success.

What about you?

Ask sincerely

It ought to go without saying yet I shall say it: ask sincerely. In the current culture, we all have a highly tuned “B.S. meter.” Others are looking for authenticity and transparency just as you are. Rather than having short attention spans, it is more that we don’t want to waste our time and our own precious resources on fake. Count on whomever you are asking to possess an extraordinary detector of transparency, authenticity, and sincerity.

When whatever we are asking for is important to us, it can be hard to be transparent and thus vulnerable. Still, if what we are asking for is highly important to us, we’ll be willing to risk it.

Consider sharing what efforts you’ve made toward your goal already—that you’ve been at work at it; you’re not looking for a free ride. Share how once you receive what you asked for (it might only be advice), what your next steps are in reaching your goal. People like to contribute to efforts that are moving along, and to see how their part—their resources of time or money or advice or an introduction—are valuable to the effort.

Be excited by your goal and ask with confidence that you’ll reach your goal while avoiding a sense of entitlement that the person you’re asking owes you. That is so unlovely and turns people off. You know that, you’re the same way.

Know what you want so that you can ask clearly, with confidence, consistently, creatively, and sincerely. Your world will change when you develop this success-principle muscle.

Rubber chicken asking

With all the attention-distracting activities people endure and subject themselves to, sometimes asking creatively is in order to get the attention of the person we’re asking.

Marketing Outrageously tells the story about using a rubber chicken mailed in a FedEx box to grab the attention of weary I-ain’t-buying-anymore-of-your-season-tickets-you-losers sports fans. That chicken with a team jersey included was wildly successful in ticket purchases. Think millions in sales.

Don’t have a sports team to promote? Maybe it’s a sulking teenager you’re wanting to catch the attention of, maybe it’s an uncooperative co-worker,  a distracted boss, a friendship that is flagging for a reason you don’t know. Asking creatively by thinking of your own rubber chicken idea could be the action that opens their mind to hear your request.

Rubber chicken not required.

So far in this series on asking we’ve considered asking clearly, asking confidently, and asking consistently. Share with people important in your life these key concepts in discovering their own best self. It’s good to have some buddies on the journey.