When I didn’t want to

I mentioned last week about writing in my success journal the actions I do for my mom, sometimes with the notation “When I didn’t want to.”

This is an important concept. Your goals most certainly have an outcome that makes your heart sing in some fashion. That doesn’t mean that every step to the goal will be exciting or fun to do.

In Western society, a notion has been long-pushed that if you don’t love it, don’t do it. You may want to be a good enough pianist to play your favorite jazz song, Broadway show-stopper, or concerto for a gathering of your friends by the end of the year. That will mean practice, practice, practice.

That time spent may be enjoyable, especially as your fingers finally do what you want them to do when you want them to do it. Most of the time it will not be “fun” though the outcome, the goal, is worth it to you to do it when you don’t want to.

Fear of taking the action—you know “false events appearing real”—is often the not-want-to even if the action itself appears fun. Standing at the top of a zipline, you can fear trusting yourself to the line but the promised rush of the experience pushes you to step off the cliff.

In the work of your life whether that is training up a child, learning how to present well enough to sell your ideas at the office, learning how to say “No” to the good so that you can say “Yes” to the best, will all have elements of you pushing through the I-don’t-want-to’s.

It’s part of living. Successful living. Write down goals that excite you and then take action … most especially when you don’t want to.

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