“If you remember nothing else, remember this: the game is won—or lost—not by the infrequent big changes, but by the frequent, deliberate, and repeatable small ones. This is where grit comes in.”–Peter Attia
Gritting it out. Day after day. Then more day after day. Yep, those changes you want to see in your life require the grit of doing what you’ve determined to do even when you don’t want to do it. Most especially then.
Choosing one thing to pursue in 2014, the entirety of 2014, can be fear inducing for me. So much to choose from and so often fear creeps in about choosing “wrong.” I see this in others when I work with them on writing out their top five passions. You? Do you have fear thoughts, too?
I know me. Sticking to a plan, sticking it out, when it gets harder hasn’t been my best suit. My observations and experiences show me that I am not alone in this behavior. That is only slightly comforting.
This isn’t only about deciding what “one thing” is for 2014. Most of us experience this fear thing. Sure, sure, you’ve probably seen False Events Appearing Real. If we get in the grip of it, this “I can’t do that because…” thing, we are stuck in our comfort zone.
Comfort zones are too small. It keeps us from ways of being that are hidden in our hearts. We may not want a do-over in every area of our life and I am sure there are areas where we do want those do-overs. Or perhaps do-better would be more apropos.
I’ve been mulling this one thing for weeks. I made my decision over the weekend and have ignored the fear associated with it. Notice I didn’t say I didn’t have any fear. Most times when we stretch out our comfort zone there is that fear or we wouldn’t view that thing as outside our comfort zone, eh?
My one thing is to do purposely and thoughtfully and write-downingly one thing a week that scares me; one thing that brings fear thoughts. I am not speaking of jumping out of airplanes which I think is crazy. No, I am speaking about more mundane and more impactful ignoring-fear actions.
I feared leaving my full-time employ to start my own business. I feared committing to writing a weekly email to subscribers, I feared adjusting my schedule to accommodate my mom’s health.
In the main, this is usually about having hard conversations, asking questions, asking for business, going to networking events. I can easily talk myself into not doing these things. You know, I have more important stuff to do. Or I am merely frozen in not taking action.
I am committing with grit, then, to taking 52 fear-inducing actions through 2014. One a week. Notice I didn’t commit to something every day. Hopefully the pace will pick up through the year. Maybe not. Still, 52 will be a big life change. I am sticking with it.
I hope you came to a decision of what you will pursue through 2014. It’s got to be concrete, not some vague goal of hold my tongue, or eat more sensibly, or, or, or. What is measured is what gets done. That’s the reason it must be concrete and written down.
I’ve decided now. Are you brave enough to do the same? YES, YOU ARE. You have it in you. Be imperfect along with me without letting that imperfection keep you from moving forward.