Raise your reputation through RSVP

Not to me. That’s not what the title of this post is about.

I am thinking about the abbreviation of RSVP. I am wondering what it means to you. I am wondering how you, well, respond to it. I wonder if you know that you can rise to the top of invitation lists by answering the request to respond.

Perhaps you know that RSVP is French: répondez s’il vous plait. Translated into English it means “please reply.” Notice what it says and what is doesn’t say.

RSVP says “reply” or “respond.” Notice that it doesn’t say “Respond if you are coming and my silence means I am not attending.” This is bad form. Don’t do it.

I have occasion to think about this because I recently invited folks to something. The invitations came by electronic means and the traditional method of mailing an invitation. Responding was made super easy: call/text/email.

By the extraordinarily high percentage of lack of responses in any form, it has given me the opportunity to review my own behavior in this area. Now I am bringing this up with you so that you, too, can review how you are treating those who invite you to events. Are you being courteous by responding or are you being rude by your silence or last minute response?

Do you want your friends, colleagues, customers and prospective customers to know you as a courteous person? Then follow these rules of RSVP and you will be among the one percent, the crème de la crème.

It isn’t necessary to give an explanation for not attending. “No” is a complete answer. There are exceptions to this rule obviously and the exceptions will be few. You will more than likely say “No” more than “Yes.” Learn how. You are in control of your schedule, your time, your commitments. Get comfortable with saying “No.” There is no “I have to.” You are choosing to because you have outcomes you want or don’t want. Own it.