This post about learned succes behavior was part of last week’s post encouraging you to pick at least one success principle to master in 2014. No quick fixes here. You’ve got to do the work for your own success. I’ve got to do my own work for my own success. Isn’t that great? That means you are in charge of how your life progresses. No one else. It’s you.
That 30-minutes/day of body movement I spoke to when I wrote that post, that isn’t something I’ve mastered since it’s original publication in May 2013. I haven’t even paid attention to that aspect of my life after a few weeks. Does that mean I have failed? No.
I could certainly think that way, saying to myself “You’ve failed you miserable fool.” First, it wouldn’t be true and, second, that self talk doesn’t motivate at all. It doesn’t fix, it only hinders.
What I can and do take from observing a stated goal that I didn’t follow through on consistently is:
• I didn’t find what motivates me. If it isn’t internally motivated, it’s an “ought-to”. Ought-to’s are de-motivating for most of us. Are you in that most group like me?
What else can I observe about my behavior? In the time elapsed since last May, I’ve incorporated many changes of mind and habit that are important to me, that motivated me. Yea me! Great time to whip out the success journal to keep at bay any destructive thoughts about my value as a person.
You’ll not see here, now, a new commitment to move closer to a fit and toned body. I am not in that mental space of writing something down because I ought to, that it would be good for me, and all that. Sure, I ought to. Sure, it would be good for me. Sure, I might regret not paying attention that counts now instead of later. None of that motives me.
I am motivated in many areas of my life and not motivated in any organized fashion about this area of my life. It’s liberating to look at my own behavior and see what is.
“Success is a learned behavior” is still a universal success principle. If I had done as I’d set forth, I would have what I said I wanted. What I discovered is that it wasn’t, actually, important to me. My not following through doesn’t nullify the principle. The same is true for you.
Our success comes faster when we choose what is important to us to accomplish, to push through inertia, distraction, and the fear of it. Review what you’ve set out for yourself, your one thing is a good place to start. Pitch what isn’t working. You’ll have more energy–physical and mental–for what is currently and actually important to you.