A concept I teach in the training I conduct is the importance of learning to say “no” graciously. As we identify what we want, what we are for, naturally there will be many distractions that will come our way. As we build the life we want, we must learn to say “no” graciously, and often to good things.
Do you know what you are for? Can you articulate it succinctly and without rancor?
What is going on in the United States that brought this to mind is the every-four-year presidential campaign. That process stirs up much “what I am against” not only in the candidates and the political parties, but also individuals. I don’t often hear what people are for and rarely is much said without rancor. I am not going to fix any of that in the public square, not trying to.
I am encouraging you to know what you are for. Can you say what you are for in your marriage, raising your kids, your work, how you will conduct yourself? If you live in a country where you can vote in any level of government, do you know what you are for so that you can determine the candidate who mostly closely aligns with what you are for? Can you state what you believe in spiritual matters, what you are for, in that area of your life?
Part of discovering our best selves is knowing what we are for, what we believe. That includes doing the research, pursuing ideas, practicing how to say graciously what we are for and the reasons we are for that.
I am for exceptionally good chocolate. I can turn down all kinds of chocolate if it isn’t in the realm of what I consider exceptionally good. See, not everything we are for is in a serious vein.
As you go through this week, I encourage you to have this on your mind, discuss it around the dinner table, the office coffee pot, when you hang with friends. If it is on a serious topic, remember no yelling, slamming doors, or being a jerk.
Make it a great week to be on the journey of discovering your best self. Let me know how I can support your endeavors.